The Big Issue : Edition 530
20 THE BIG ISSUE 10 – 23 FEB 2017 BIG LOVE VENDOR TREVOR MET REGULAR CUSTOMER ELLEN WHILE SELLING THE BIG ISSUE IN SYDNEY. NOW THEY ARE HUSBAND AND WIFE. IGL VE TREVOR I MET ELLEN back in 2009, on my pitch at George and Jamison streets. She started buying the magazine from me, and later on she said to me: “I want to get to know this bloke, with his long hair and red jacket.” When she walked away, I liked her swagger. I have The Big Issue and God to thank for finding Ellen. She’d stop by and have a chat. After about six months, I actually asked her out. She’d only just come back from New Zealand ’cos her dad had passed away. And she had a bit ofacryonmyshoulderandIgavehera hug, just the right thing to do I thought. And I decided to get up the courage to ask her out. She said yes! I chickened out that weekend. I had a gambling problem and I didn’t have any money. I was too scared, I didn’t want to embarrass her, but we still stayed in contact. One afternoon, we were just sat talking, and I happened to touch her hand and I felt this electricity go up all through my body and I thought, “Well, this is the lady for me. And that was it.” After we’d been going out six or seven months, I proposed. She said yes straight away. I actually asked her three times, I wanted to make sure it was correct! We got married 31 July, 2011, at her family home in New Zealand. It was a simple ceremony. The Big Issue has given me the world of confidence. Before The Big Issue, I was working in Albury as a welder. I was running away from myself at the same time: I had a gambling addiction and I was doing drugs as well. I was so muddled up inside my own head because of the abuse I’d suffered. I tried to destroy myself through suicide. I had no confidence about myself. I was so scared to face anything. Since I’ve been with Ellen, everything’s just grown; I’m slowly improving in everything that I do. I think the world of her. When I first met her, I was a smoker. She encouraged me to give up cigarettes, and I’ve been clean ever since... Coming up to seven years. My marriage is going as strong as ever. I’ve helped her gain confidence in herself. She had no confidence in cooking, and she cooked me this delicious omelette with all these beautiful herbs and tomatoes, and I said, “Wow!” She makes the best omelette ever, and she still does. When she’s going through some down periods, I’m always there for her. I always try to help her pick up the pieces. I am happy to be married to Ellen. It gives me a sense of being wanted, and being loved. We’re there to help each other, to be kind and gentle to one another. It’s just great to wake up next to her. She catches the train at 6am, so I hop up with her at 4.30am and make her a cup of tea and see her off to work. And when she comes home I’m always there to greet her with a smile and give her a kiss. ELLEN LOVE HAPPENED WHEN I least expected it. Trevor was like this beautiful bolt out of the blue. I have a clear vision of the first time we met – he was wearing a red zip-up jacket that he still has, his hair falling down over his eyes – he stood out to me from the city office workers and something just struck a chord immediately. I found him a really interesting person and I wanted to get to know him and his story a lot more. I’m a word-processing operator and at that time I worked for a law firm near The Rocks, and would walk past Trevor, often stop to buy a magazine and we just got chatting. And then I sort of realised that I was attracted to him. I tried to subdue it. I’d walk a different way to work or across the opposite side of the road to avoid him, but then I’d look out for him. I was like a teenager! Then I just thought, “Don’t be silly.” It’s wonderful to be given a second chance at love. Our first or second get-together, I said to Trevor, “You are a really nice person but I don’t want to be with a smoker.” And he immediately grabbed his cigarettes and just squashed them and threw them in the bin and he stopped smoking right then and there. And I thought, “Blimey!” I was really taken aback by it.